“We should create the place where our grandmothers will not feel being served all the time, otherwise they will not come back to the gatherings. Then, they will stay inside the temporary house without socializing with others…”

“We should build the cafe where our elders are the ones to serve tea, rather than being served. They like to do be useful to others “

The Tsunami victims who live in the temporary housing communities, repeatedly, made these comments.

Although the contexts are different, it reminded me of the elders in long term care facilities in other parts of the world. I have been pondering about “what does it mean by helping elders not only in disaster areas but also in our neighborhoods…” It is quite ironic to learn that issues around caring for elders are universal.

I am so inspired by the fact that the people whom I met at the disaster area were so excited to work with ibasho team to create ibasho cafe with elders as a part of the first step of re-building (and strengthening) their community. We have a wonderful group of people to develop this project to truly support the vision of local community, and I cannot wait to learn from each other throughout this process. Clearly, local residents including elders are generously giving me such a wonderful opportunity to “feel useful to others”.

As you can see in the pictures below, one of the temporary housing communities organized a wonderful dinner party with delicious seafood for us. I still cannot belive how resilient they are… All the people with smiley faces in the pictures have lost everything they had by the Tsumani (their house, furniture, shoes, clothes, and pictures… I mean everything). Yet, they welcomed us with limited food supplies that they had.  One lady told me that “I lost everything, but we have each other. We want to show the world that we appreciate all the help and love that they gave us.”

I was speechless… could not find any words but just hold her hands.

We arrived in Ofunato, and drove through Tsunami affected areas (as you can see in the video clip). As you can see from the video, the devastation caused by the Tsunami was so severe and wide spread, and I could not comprehend what I was looking at from the car window. All the open space in the video was high-density area with multi-story buildings, and 70,000 mature/large pine trees were there at the beach side before the Tsunami. All the pine trees exept for one were vanished instantly…

Although the magnitude of this Tsunami was so devastating and many lives were lost, local residents were amazingly resillient and inspiring. They shared their experience during the horrific escape, and challenging time in evacuation site, loss of their loved ones, and etc… What I saw in their eyes was not the sadness but the sense of determination to re-create their community and better future for the next generation.

I will post their stories from our meetings in the future posts.

I am going to Tsunami disaster area from today, and work on a project: creating an “Ibasho cafe,” partnering with OperationUSA. We will visit disaster area and meet with people who live in temporary housing community, and work together to create an “ibasho”. This cafe is NOT going to be a “senior center” where elders have scheduled visits to socialize with others and receive care, but the place where elders are involved in design, construction, and operation by providing their wisdom, experience, and compassion to the community. We envision this cafe to be a social hub where people of all ages will come and spend their time as they wish. In this project, I strongly believe that maintaining the concept of “informality” at the cafe is so critical for local residents to find their own “ibasho”.

I will be blogging my trip from Japan, so that you can see what we are doing to help elders in disaster area to have their life worth living.

It has been a long time since I wrote my last blog post. I now realized that Japan’s earthquake/tsunami event impacted on me so much that I could not bring myself to write about my ideas–almost one year. I am so grateful that elders in disaster area gave me strength to share my thoughts to others again…

Look forward to your comments and wisdom to help us make this project successful!

Please join us for a garden reception and presentation by Emi Kiyota
On the Philosophy and Projects of Ibasho

Date:                  May 12, 2011

Reception:          5:00-8:00 pm

Presentation:     6:30 pm by Emi Kiyota, Ph.D.

Topic:                The Philosophy and Projects of Ibasho

Location:           LeadingAge National Office
                           2519 Connecticut Avenue, NW, Washington, DC, 20008-1520                                Enter through the offices of LeadingAge, on the corner of                                        Connecticut Ave and Calvert St.. diagonally across from red                                    line metro stop @ Woodley Park-Zoo.

RSVP:                  Click here or email info@ibasho.org

Ibasho is an innovative new organization that seeks to create places for elders to live in safety, comfort and dignity, where they are valued as people full of history and experience. The concept is simple: elders have a lot to offer, and benefit from being able to share their talents within a true community. Therefore, Ibasho creates places that we would all like to live in as we get older – multi-generational, environmentally sustainable communities in which elders can contribute their talents at the same time they are cared for.

Ibasho’s current projects:

    • Post-tsunami and earthquake reconstruction in Japan
    • La Maison du Pere (Cote d’Ivoire), in which retired priests will live within a village and act as teachers for a community with no other access to education
    • Design consultation for a community of elderly Buddhist monks in Bhutan.

Ibasho founder, Dr. Emi Kiyota, will introduce the Ibasho approach, its projects and discuss her experiences, from living with elders in long term care facilities to redesigning traditional nursing homes to better bring residents and staff together to building true multigenerational communities across the globe.

Contact Ibasho at www.ibasho.org, or by e-mail to info@ibasho.org.

Ibasho is a not-for-corporation with 501(c)(3) tax-exempt status. Please click here to donate at our website, or by check to Ibasho: P.O. Box 40242 Washington, DC 20016, USA.

Please join us for a garden reception and presentation by Emi Kiyota
On the Philosophy and Projects of Ibasho

Date:                  May 12, 2011

Reception:          5:00-8:00 pm

Presentation:     6:30 pm by Emi Kiyota, Ph.D.

Topic:                The Philosophy and Projects of Ibasho

Location:           LeadingAge National Office
                           2519 Connecticut Avenue, NW, Washington, DC, 20008-1520                                Enter through the offices of LeadingAge, on the corner of                                        Connecticut Ave and Calvert St.. diagonally across from red                                    line metro stop @ Woodley Park-Zoo.

RSVP:                  Click here or email info@ibasho.org

Ibasho is an innovative new organization that seeks to create places for elders to live in safety, comfort and dignity, where they are valued as people full of history and experience. The concept is simple: elders have a lot to offer, and benefit from being able to share their talents within a true community. Therefore, Ibasho creates places that we would all like to live in as we get older – multi-generational, environmentally sustainable communities in which elders can contribute their talents at the same time they are cared for.

Ibasho’s current projects:

    • Post-tsunami and earthquake reconstruction in Japan
    • La Maison du Pere (Cote d’Ivoire), in which retired priests will live within a village and act as teachers for a community with no other access to education
    • Design consultation for a community of elderly Buddhist monks in Bhutan.

Ibasho founder, Dr. Emi Kiyota, will introduce the Ibasho approach, its projects and discuss her experiences, from living with elders in long term care facilities to redesigning traditional nursing homes to better bring residents and staff together to building true multigenerational communities across the globe.

Contact Ibasho at www.ibasho.org, or by e-mail to info@ibasho.org.

Ibasho is a not-for-corporation with 501(c)(3) tax-exempt status. Please click here to donate at our website, or by check to Ibasho: P.O. Box 40242 Washington, DC 20016, USA.

Many people in Ivory Coast are suffering from the current conflict. One of our friend, an Ivorian catholic priest sent me several images (with his comments). These pictures were taken at a large cathedral in the center of Abidjan. This cathedral was such a beautiful building located in a serene site when I visited last year.

People in the city are evacuating to this cathedral and this place is completely overwhelmed. As you can see, even the church is not necessary the safe place for them. They are worried about the gun shots and debris from the bombs.

Many friends of mine have reached out to me and express their sincere sympathy to me and my family in Japan, and they took action to help Japan. In this difficult time, I sincerely hope that you can also pray for the people in the Ivory Coast.

Dear friends in the Ivory Coast,

We are thinking of you. Please be safe. I look forward to seeing you soon.

 

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We all know that most older adults would like to live at home — after all, why wouldn’t they? I know I would. As a result, the people who work in long-term care for elders strive to create places that feel like home. But what is a “perfect home”?

In long-term care, we try to create a place that is efficient, clean, and safe, with everything we need always accessible. But in our own homes (at least in mine), things are often inefficient and not necessarily clean, and it’s not always easy to find what I want.

So why do we still want to live at home, where things are so much more messy and inconvenient?

I think we strive too much to create “perfect care in a perfect environment.” I wonder if the artificial tidiness of the long-term care environments we create actually make us uneasy, rather than make us feel “safe.”  Maybe it helps create the sense of disconnect that plagues so many residents of long-term care facilities — the loneliness, helplessness, and boredom the Eden Alternative talks about, because you can’t take the chaos, unpredictability, and individuality out of a place without taking at least some of the life out of it too.

In other words, it’s really impossible to create an environment that will be perfect for everyone who lives there since there will be many people with many different backgrounds and preferences there at any given time, let alone over the years. So much better, surely, to create a space that allows for a lot of variation and individual choice/adaptation, right?

I wonder how we can embrace the sense of “imperfection” gracefully in long-term care settings. I believe that this is the key to creating an ibasho, a place where we can feel at home as who we truly are.

I had a wonderful meeting with Bhutan project team and a monk from Bhutan in the first day of my visit in Singapore. While I was quite exhausted by the long travel, I was so glad to spend the time with them.

During our discussion, the Bhutanese monk shared his thoughts regarding caring for elders in Bhutan. He truly hopes that this project will initiate reducing the suffering of people who have no roof over their head, no food to eat, and no clothes to wear when they get old. He described his ideas with using the term “compassion”

Then, I realized how fortunate I am to exercise my thoughts for the next level of “suffering” among the elders in our society, which is focusing more in “emotional suffering.” Because my basic human needs are met, I can be worrying about if elders have meaningful life in their old age.

After talking with the monk, I thought about the elder  care from the perspective of “suffering,” which I have never thought of. I feel that there are two types of suffering that we should free elders from; suffering from not being able to have basic human needs to live, and the suffering from not being able to meet basic emotional needs. Not only elders, but also all of us will experience a suffering until the both needs are met through the “compassion” from the surrounding community.

I am so blessed to have such a wonderful opportunity to sit down with wise elders, and learn from their knowledge and experience. I do hope that we can preserve and nurture their wisdom to make our society a better place for people of all ages to live.

Ibasho was granted 501 (c) (3) tax-exempt status by the IRS. What a great way to start the new year.

Thank you so much for your support to get to this point. Our real work begins now.

We are very excited!

For three weeks in 2003 I lived as a nursing home resident while I was a graduate student in architecture. I was studying the impact of the physical environment of nursing homes on the everyday lives of the people who lived and worked there, so I checked myself into a facility in the Midwest as a young woman suffering paralysis on one side of my body.

My stay there was crucial in the formation of my beliefs about what goes into making a first-rate nursing and rehabilitation facility, both in terms of the physical facility and the care that residents receive there. It was a personal experience from which I developed a few ideas about how we should care for elders who can’t to do things for themselves the way they used to, and what we should look for in seeking the kind of place where we would feel comfortable ourselves.

The most important thing I learned from that experience is that we need to keep at the center of our decisions the people who are living in these facilities, whether for short-term rehabilitation or long-term nursing care. Critical to this philosophy is the importance of remembering that people don’t lose their individuality just because they’ve become old or frail. The best nursing and rehabilitation facilities keep that uppermost in mind in the way they care for their residents. They remember that the person in Room 207 is more than just her diagnosis or dietary requirements – she’s someone who had a full life, rich in experiences and knowledge, someone who deserves to be respected and celebrated. Perhaps she was an avid gardener in her younger years, or the best cook on her block, or a musician who trained generations of neighborhood kids on the piano. Good facilities learn these things about their residents and use them as a way to connect with them and to help them connect with others.

What I call a “person-centered approach” puts personal preferences ahead of strict adherence to procedures and allows residents to make as many decisions as possible – from when to wake up and when to eat to how to spend their time. Today, our elders will have opportunities to reflect their memories of past Thanksgivings and share their stories with the people around them. As we gather together with friends and family and share our blessings, let’s take time to appreciate our elders as important members of our families and our society. We can all take a moment to honor them as the people who provided us such wonderful Thanksgiving dinners in the past.

Of course, this all has to happen within the framework of running an efficient, safe and comfortable facility, but I truly believe those goals don’t have to compete with each other. Residents can be given more autonomy without compromising the operation of the facility. Good facilities are already doing that. Their nurses and staff already are doing a good job of caring for our parents and grandparents, and the changes needed to fully embrace the person-centered approach are relatively minor.

As we build new nursing and rehabilitation centers we should be thinking about creating an environment for residents that is comfortable and more like their own home. Bright rooms with cheerful paint schemes, attractive views and tasteful furnishing can create that feeling of being at home. A physical layout that encourages socialization with neighbors while offering a sense of personal privacy, a café where people can gather and spend time together over a cup of coffee – all these things can be designed into new facilities. Something as simple as making the hallways shorter lets residents with limited mobility make their way to the dining area or lounge area on their own.

A person-centered approach to running a nursing home respects our elders’ desire to be allowed to continue making their own choices. Why would anyone think that just because a person has gotten older he or she requires less privacy or less control over day-to-day living? There are going to be times they just want to be alone, just as there are surely going to be times when they crave a little companionship. They probably want a say in what they do, and when they do it, and with whom. In that way, they’re pretty much like us, because they are us, and, soon enough, we will be them. We need to keep that in mind as we think about how we care for our elders.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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